National Capital of INDIA! Delhi is full of such news everyday... A woman is raped every 18 hours in Delhi!
Everyday average stats in local news, 15 murders, 3 deaths, 5 thefts, 2 kidnappings and 2 rapes in past 24 hours... That too in a state where the Chief Minister is a woman (Sheela Dixit). Congress has ruled around 14 years in Delhi. Even the Congress Chief is a woman (Sonia Gandhi) Still Delhi is the most unsafe place for woman...!! what fate does India carry?
Delhi should be given the tag of the official rape capital of India!! A girl cannot roam in delhi freely even after 6pm...she needs to have some male and a car to be on a safer side...else her rape is confirmed!! I wont be wrong to call it a state of mean ,self-centered people!
Anyways no matter how many posts are written,rallies are carried out,petitions are signed..the schedule will follow-an fir will take a few days to register ,then 5-6years to get the court's decision and finally a seven year imprisonment for the guilty!! but is that really enough for violating a woman's dignity and her fundamental right of roaming freely?? Moreover, everything will be forgotten in the upcoming days and again voices will raise after one more such incident takes place...again blogs wud be written ,petitions would be signed then again everything wud be back to normal!! in such cases what can we at our level do to avoid the trauma?
FOR ADULTS: You are the ones who shape your child's personality ,you are the ones who your child looks upto . At your level you can do a lot -
1. When we see some teenagers eve-teasing in public places, we usually tend to ignore them...why? cant someday your child too be in the same place as the helpless girls!! STOP THEM, SCOLD THEM IF NEED BE, RAISE YOUR VOICE SO THAT ON-LOOKERS CAN HEAR YOU AND SUPPORT YOU !!
2. Dont ask your daughters not to go out, teach your son to behave like a gentleman with girls..this statement is a little controversial but leme ellaborate: the rape criminals have not left out a any kind of age group of girls-from a 2year old to a senior citizen they have covered them all !! moreover they did not even bother to see if she is in skimpy clothes or in a burkha..!! (you can surely relate this with my post for girls below)
3. When your child approaches you about some wrong being, take it up positively. Let your child know that you are on her/his side. Most of the times in cases of molestation,assaults or even rape, kids are threatened by the guilty...or sometimes the kids consider it their mistake in such cases n due to the fear of getting scolded they dont approach parents. so parents please make it a point that atleast every alternate day you have a heart-to-heart conversation like a friend with your kid just to know the child is fine.
4. PROVIDE THE CHILD WITH INFORMATION AND PROTECTIVE MEASURES TO BE TAKEN IN SUCH CASES...from their school days itself educate them about identifying the different touches , make them understand about their private organs and that no one is allowed to touch them!! parents are seen shying off from talking this with kids...but PREVENTION IS ALWAYS BETTER THAN CURE!!
FOR GIRLS/WOMEN:
1.Your parents always want your good! it is right on their part to tel you not to go out etc etc. dont get angry on them, understand the situation from their point of view and try to know why are they stopping you!!
2. You as a girl have to protect yourself ! always make it a point to ROAM AROUND IN A GROUP (may it be friends or family)
3. RESTRICT YOURSELF TO PUBLIC PLACES ONLY!! (eg restaurants, known movie halls, gardens etc) avoid going to places you are not sure of, or are quiet places which you have never been before!! even if you tend to go be sure you are with trusted people.
4. If you tend to go for dinner with friends or anywhere after 7pm, do give your parents all TRUE DETAILS about who all would be there for the dinner, where you would be going, what time would you head back home,phone details of atleast two friends who would be there with you etc...DONT GET ANGRY IF THEY ENQUIRE ,just answer all questions calmly as they do this all out of the immense love they have for us!!
5. WEAR DECENT CLOTHES (here decent clothes do not refer to punjabi suits or saris , but decent clothes refers to something that can be publicly viewed !! a jeans and top ,leggings and tunics, 3/4th pants and tops, shorts are also decent clothes) shorts* do not refer to hot shorts n the almost peep-a-boo type ones, they refer to knee length!! AVOID WEARING ONE PIECES unless you are with a huge group of people or traveling in a car! wear clothes you will be comfortable in..cause at the end its not how much u expose that counts,but its about all the good time you have!!
6. If you are a victim of eve teasing in a public place, dont try to rush out of that place ...raise your voice if people are around.
7. DONT WALK ALONE ON QUIET ROADS specially when you are angry ,lonely etc If you need some time all alone -stay at home ,hear soothing music or watch your favourite movie !!
8. If ,god-forbid, some one tries to assault or molest you or even rape you...a girl is physically not as strong as a boy...but being a quick thinker would help a lot...
-SCREAM ON THE TOP OF YOUR VOICE TO LET PEOPLE KNOW
-try to escape from that surrounding as and when you get a chance to.
-It will be very difficult to over-power these people,but no matter how huge the
person is...their private organs will always remain sensitive....so one kick on it
and u can probably save yourself.
i have come across cases where not much can be done and you really cannot escape the horror!! so follow the first 7poInts really well to avoid such situations.
lAST BUT NOT THE LEAST, make it a point to let your partner or husband know that you are not some one below him but you are an equal...also when you have two kids -a girl and a boy -TREAT THEM AS EQUAL...teach the boy to respect women,..cause in the end a guy who treats his girl like a princess has surely grown in the arms of a queen!!!
STAY SAFE AND DO SHARE -YOU MAY JUST SAVE A LIFE!!
Everyday average stats in local news, 15 murders, 3 deaths, 5 thefts, 2 kidnappings and 2 rapes in past 24 hours... That too in a state where the Chief Minister is a woman (Sheela Dixit). Congress has ruled around 14 years in Delhi. Even the Congress Chief is a woman (Sonia Gandhi) Still Delhi is the most unsafe place for woman...!! what fate does India carry?
Delhi should be given the tag of the official rape capital of India!! A girl cannot roam in delhi freely even after 6pm...she needs to have some male and a car to be on a safer side...else her rape is confirmed!! I wont be wrong to call it a state of mean ,self-centered people!
Anyways no matter how many posts are written,rallies are carried out,petitions are signed..the schedule will follow-an fir will take a few days to register ,then 5-6years to get the court's decision and finally a seven year imprisonment for the guilty!! but is that really enough for violating a woman's dignity and her fundamental right of roaming freely?? Moreover, everything will be forgotten in the upcoming days and again voices will raise after one more such incident takes place...again blogs wud be written ,petitions would be signed then again everything wud be back to normal!! in such cases what can we at our level do to avoid the trauma?
FOR ADULTS: You are the ones who shape your child's personality ,you are the ones who your child looks upto . At your level you can do a lot -
1. When we see some teenagers eve-teasing in public places, we usually tend to ignore them...why? cant someday your child too be in the same place as the helpless girls!! STOP THEM, SCOLD THEM IF NEED BE, RAISE YOUR VOICE SO THAT ON-LOOKERS CAN HEAR YOU AND SUPPORT YOU !!
2. Dont ask your daughters not to go out, teach your son to behave like a gentleman with girls..this statement is a little controversial but leme ellaborate: the rape criminals have not left out a any kind of age group of girls-from a 2year old to a senior citizen they have covered them all !! moreover they did not even bother to see if she is in skimpy clothes or in a burkha..!! (you can surely relate this with my post for girls below)
3. When your child approaches you about some wrong being, take it up positively. Let your child know that you are on her/his side. Most of the times in cases of molestation,assaults or even rape, kids are threatened by the guilty...or sometimes the kids consider it their mistake in such cases n due to the fear of getting scolded they dont approach parents. so parents please make it a point that atleast every alternate day you have a heart-to-heart conversation like a friend with your kid just to know the child is fine.
4. PROVIDE THE CHILD WITH INFORMATION AND PROTECTIVE MEASURES TO BE TAKEN IN SUCH CASES...from their school days itself educate them about identifying the different touches , make them understand about their private organs and that no one is allowed to touch them!! parents are seen shying off from talking this with kids...but PREVENTION IS ALWAYS BETTER THAN CURE!!
FOR GIRLS/WOMEN:
1.Your parents always want your good! it is right on their part to tel you not to go out etc etc. dont get angry on them, understand the situation from their point of view and try to know why are they stopping you!!
2. You as a girl have to protect yourself ! always make it a point to ROAM AROUND IN A GROUP (may it be friends or family)
3. RESTRICT YOURSELF TO PUBLIC PLACES ONLY!! (eg restaurants, known movie halls, gardens etc) avoid going to places you are not sure of, or are quiet places which you have never been before!! even if you tend to go be sure you are with trusted people.
4. If you tend to go for dinner with friends or anywhere after 7pm, do give your parents all TRUE DETAILS about who all would be there for the dinner, where you would be going, what time would you head back home,phone details of atleast two friends who would be there with you etc...DONT GET ANGRY IF THEY ENQUIRE ,just answer all questions calmly as they do this all out of the immense love they have for us!!
5. WEAR DECENT CLOTHES (here decent clothes do not refer to punjabi suits or saris , but decent clothes refers to something that can be publicly viewed !! a jeans and top ,leggings and tunics, 3/4th pants and tops, shorts are also decent clothes) shorts* do not refer to hot shorts n the almost peep-a-boo type ones, they refer to knee length!! AVOID WEARING ONE PIECES unless you are with a huge group of people or traveling in a car! wear clothes you will be comfortable in..cause at the end its not how much u expose that counts,but its about all the good time you have!!
6. If you are a victim of eve teasing in a public place, dont try to rush out of that place ...raise your voice if people are around.
7. DONT WALK ALONE ON QUIET ROADS specially when you are angry ,lonely etc If you need some time all alone -stay at home ,hear soothing music or watch your favourite movie !!
8. If ,god-forbid, some one tries to assault or molest you or even rape you...a girl is physically not as strong as a boy...but being a quick thinker would help a lot...
-SCREAM ON THE TOP OF YOUR VOICE TO LET PEOPLE KNOW
-try to escape from that surrounding as and when you get a chance to.
-It will be very difficult to over-power these people,but no matter how huge the
person is...their private organs will always remain sensitive....so one kick on it
and u can probably save yourself.
i have come across cases where not much can be done and you really cannot escape the horror!! so follow the first 7poInts really well to avoid such situations.
lAST BUT NOT THE LEAST, make it a point to let your partner or husband know that you are not some one below him but you are an equal...also when you have two kids -a girl and a boy -TREAT THEM AS EQUAL...teach the boy to respect women,..cause in the end a guy who treats his girl like a princess has surely grown in the arms of a queen!!!
STAY SAFE AND DO SHARE -YOU MAY JUST SAVE A LIFE!!
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